How to Stay in Your Heart

How to Stay in Your Heart

So the idea of staying in your heart is obviously a very large topic. 

Throughout our lives, I believe we’re on this invisible quest to figure out what our heart connection is about and what it means to us. 

But what does it mean to “be in your heart”? 

What it means for me is that at the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what I do, who I do it with, what it is that I have, own, collect, or how much I have or little I have… 

At the end of the day, the only thing that really matters is how I feel at any given moment. 

To me, being in my heart means I only do things that make me feel good. Not like I eat a piece of chocolate and that makes me feel good, but doing things that make me feel good on a soul level.

To live in my heart, I have to continuously ask myself questions like: How do I feel about the kind of people I surround myself with? How does the food I eat make me feel? The kind of activities I indulge in? The kind of stuff I like to collect? How I spend my free time? 

When I started asking myself these questions, I stopped doing so many things and I stopped seeing a lot of different people. In some ways, my experience of living became a lot more simple.

In order to be in your heart, you have to have an unwavering desire to be in your Truth. 

 You have to be the most important person to you. You have to think, “I come first, then you come next.” It means being true to yourself. 

Being in your heart often means that you’re confronted with difficult decisions. 

Because, if I stay true to myself, I may have to set a boundary with someone, or end a relationship, or possibly do something I’ve never done before.

The equation is very simple. I just ask myself, “How do I feel in relation to this?”If I can’t find my heart in the action that I’m about to take, then I simply don’t do it. 

If I can find traces of my heart in it, then I may explore it because there may be something in the exploration that I need to see.But if it doesn’t grow my heart connection very quickly, then I will abandon it very quickly. 

How do you get to be with your heart? 

I believe the fastest path to connect with your heart is through acts of kindness.

There are many acts of kindness you can do. You can help out a person in need. You can do volunteer work, donate money, take in a stranger, help somebody that needs something, or donate your time. 

I mean, there’s so many things you can do to open up your heart. But, at the end of the day, if you want a lasting experience of a heart connection, you have to go back inside. 

You have to first understand any reason why you might not want to stay in your heart.

For most of us, it has to do with what happened when we were small children. A little child is always in their heart. They don’t know the difference. If we’re no longer in our hearts, it’s because, at some point, our hearts got broken as children. 

Maybe it was lack of connection, lack of attention from parents, lack of a parent, lack of anything that we experience as being difficult as children. If that’s true, we probably said something along the lines of, “I don’t like this feeling. I don’t ever want to feel this again.” 

And then we shut something down. 

In order to get to the place of not just having these sporadic moments when you feel your heart, you will have to do the work. You have to figure out why you shut your heart down in the first place. 

There’s definitely things to do on a more functional level, like volunteer work. But, you have to love yourself more than anything else you do. It’s not a selfish act.

The more I am able to love myself the higher my ability to love rises. And the more it rises, the more I’m able to permeate that love outward. I cannot love anything or anybody else more than I love myself. It’s just not possible. 

People may say they do, and they may trick themselves into believing it. 

But in my experience, when you question a situation like that, there is what is called a false need built into it. The equation for loving yourself has to be to clean up whatever prevented you from doing it in the first place.

It is literally the most natural thing we do. 

We were born with hearts open and I think many of us die with our hearts open. 

Get help to heal your heart.

If you feel your heart is shut down, I want to help you. 

Chances are, you haven’t yet healed or integrated the part of you that was shut down as a child. That part of you holds the key to deeper levels of joy, love, and compassion for yourself and others. 

All you have to do to start the path to reconnection with your heart is schedule a complimentary 30-minute somatic therapy session with me here.

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